yesterday my oldest turned thirteen years old. it is hard to believe that it has been over a decade since he came into this world and made me a mom. i remember so clearly waiting for his arrival. waiting, and waiting…and waiting. he was several days “overdue”, like a library book in need of returning. i managed to endure all this waiting with a carefully chosen therapy of ben and jerry’s and cheese sticks which did little for my swollen ankles or my post-deliver self-esteem.
at the time, the wait seemed endless though in reality it was only a few days. how i regret not savoring those precious days when he and i were as intimately connected as two human being can be rather than wishing them away. i love having him on this side of things but those days are once in a lifetime, never to return.
i am still playing the waiting game, mentally pacing through the days, awaiting my delivery. of late, i have felt a building tension, a strange mixture of anticipation and annoyance. i feel this growing “other” inside of me, longing to break free of its shell and emerge into the world.
before you become convinced that i am possessed by some sort of sigourney weaver type alien baby that will at any moment burst forth and destroy the world, i am speaking of a metaphorical baby who in fact might burst forth at any moment but hopefully not to destroy the world. this inner being which is growing bit by bit and sometimes appears to be only sleeping is my true self, my Christ-created, glorified self. this shell with which i wrestle daily is the alien. the destroyer of the world, the speaker of unkind words, the neglecter of friend and neighbor. this is the dragon-skinned flesh which i long to have clawed away but am helpless to do so.
i know, in my heart, that my day will come. whether it comes in trumpet blasts and triumphal returns or whether it comes in the ceasing of my heart and a return to my rightful home. i can do nothing to bring it one day, one hour closer. i can do nothing to change how long i wait but how i wait matters.
before bailey was born, there were plenty of preparations to be made. things to be accomplished. the same is true of me now. how i spend this waiting time effects my unborn eternal self. how i choose to spend my time, what i ingest in my mind and spirit, my discipline or lack there of, all impact this growing self for better or for worse. i doubt i will be in heaven thinking “gee, i really wish i had caught one more episode of parenthood” and yet there are days i am glued to hulu as if my life depended on it.
thirteen years after bailey’s birth, i look back on those final belly-stroking, gravity-defying moments with fond nostalgia. while they seemed to last forever, they passed in the blink of an infant’s eye. the same is true of these days as well. it won’t be long and my waiting will be over. may God teach me to rest in the waiting and prepare me for the labors to come.